Hey Leader of Champions,
As a parent, you are constantly in a coaching situation with your kids. You may not think that, but you are. There is a concept in coaching called Readiness Factors that is REALLY important. For some reason, this coaching tool isn’t in the parenting handbook.
Whoa, wait there is a parenting handbook? I need to get me one of those:)
Your kids and the other players and people you coach are in one of these four readiness factors all the time.
The 4 Readiness Factors
1) I don’t know this is Important and I don’t know how to do it.
2) I know it is important and I still don’t know how to do it.
3) I know how to do it, but I am not doing it, so I don’t think that it is important.
4) I know how to do it, and I am doing it! 🙂
Parents automatically want their kids to be at Readiness Factor 4.
When it comes to learning skills each human being on the planet has 4 Readiness Factors and each Readiness Factor has its own unique coaching process.
HERE IS A SUPER BRIEF OVERVIEW OF THE 4 DIFFERENT COACHING PROCESSES
1) I don’t know this is Important and I don’t know how to do it: This coaching process is centered on informing.
2) I know it is important and I still don’t know how to do it. This coaching process is centered on teaching.
3) I know how to do it, but I am not doing it, so I don’t think that it is important. This coaching process is centered on motivating.
4) I know how to do it, and I am doing it. The 4th coaching process is centered on praise.
The most important thing you can do as a parent can do when talking to your young athletes is to have awareness of these 4 different Factors and then to not get them confused.
Don’t try and tell a person what he needs to do when he is asking you how to do it. Don’t try to teach him when he needs to be motivated. Don’t praise him when he can’t do something and when they don’t know what to do.
It is VERY important that you are able to read the correct readiness factor and then use the appropriate coaching process. I see parents and coaches messing this up all the time!
This is Super Tough to watch because 99% of the parents I see have good intentions. They want their kids to be successful they just have not learned this Mission Critical Coaching Tool. The 4 Readiness Factors. Let’s be real, a lot of parents and coaches are good at telling people what to do so they stay in that mode all the time.
Dad: “You need to do it this way.”
Kid: “Why do I need to do it that way?”
Dad: “You do it this way because I told you to do it this way.”
No strategic thoughtfulness, no learning, no praise = No Skill Development or Behavior Improvement.
Or you get a parent who is praising all the time. “That’s Great!, You are doing Great. You are Great. You are Great. You are Great!”
That is not helping your kids either.
You have to have a coaching process that sinks up with the Readiness Factor with the people you are working with. This is most important with your kids because for many of us, we work with them the most!
At the end of the day, good coaching is about improving the performance of the people you coach.
Many parents are the most influential coaches in their kids’ lives yet when their kids don’t develop at the rate that they would like they blame it on other things, or worse they blame it on the kid!
Most of the time progress is slow because the kids are being coached using the incorrect readiness factor.
Let’s get our kids better today by coaching them the right way!
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I Believe in your Greatness,