3 World-Class Coaching Actions you can Instantly Apply to Help your Kids Reach Peak Performance in Uncertain Times
“Challenge is the opportunity for greatness.”
My eleven-year-old son KJ looked at me warily. There is no doubt that over the last 6 months our relationship has been more strained.
It could be the fact that we had been spending so much more time together because of the quarantine.
It could be because we were letting the stressors of the outside world come into our inner Flow.
Either way, it was up to me as dad/leader/coach to get this relationship back on track because things were definitely slipping…
Goal: We live in a volatile, unpredictable environment right now, and leadership from parents and coaches is more important than ever before because the challenge is bigger than ever before. The goal of this article is to provide you with some daily tools and peak performance tips you can apply today when leading your young athletes’.
I challenge you to not only survive in this time that we are in but thrive. Lead your family to Greatness. The World needs more inspiration than ever before and I challenge you and your family to be that inspiration.
Let’s do this!
TEACHING OUR YOUNG CHAMPIONS TO CREATE
When my 2 boys approach me with a problem, I usually reply with the question, ‘Okay, given that’s the situation, what would you like to create?’
Yes, I commonly apply the age-old parenting approach of answering a question with a question:)
Notice that it was not ‘How do you want to solve it?’
That gives the problem all the power. As if the problem were a bomb we had to carefully disarm.
I don’t want the problem as having the power in the situation. I want my boys and their creativity to have the Power. There is no problem-solving in this scenario. What we create together makes the problems fade from all relevance.
And the second question I will ask when it appears that my boys are not ready to do the uncomfortable thing that their creative answer requires.
‘Who do you need to be?’
Because I know through my own experience, and my boys have learned through practice, that we all have the power to create who we need to be. It’s all we ever do anyway.
So quick question for you Leader of Champions, Got a Problem?
Okay, given that’s the situation, what would you like to create?”
Given that whatever is going on is going on, WHAT WOULD YOU LIKE TO CREATE?
We have the power to create our identity moment to moment. Our kids have the Power to create their identity moment to moment.
One of the most powerful books that has come out in the last couple of years is Atomic Habits by James Clear.
This book is even more powerful and more relevant now because with economic lockdowns, and quarantines, and etc. etc. etc. we are wiring new habits into our lives. Let’s wire New Positive Habits that put us on the path to Greatness!
Here is how Clear describes our identity and how it is made moment to moment,
“Identity change is the North Star of habit change. The remainder of this book will provide you with step-by-step instructions on how to build better habits for yourself, your family, your team, your company, and anywhere else you wish. But the true question is: ‘Are you becoming the type of person you want to become?’ The first step is not what or how, but who. You need to know who you want to be. Otherwise, your quest for change is like a boat without a rudder. And that’s why we’re starting here. You have the power to change your beliefs about yourself. Your identity is not set in stone. You have a choice in every moment.
You can choose the identity you want to reinforce today with the habits you choose today. And this brings us to the deeper purpose of this book and the real reason habits matter. Building better habits isn’t about littering your day with life hacks. It’s not about flossing one tooth each night or taking a cold shower each morning or wearing the same outfit each day. It’s not about achieving external measures of success like earning more money, losing weight, or reducing stress. Habits can help you achieve all of these things, but fundamentally they are not about having something. They are about becoming someone.
Ultimately, your habits matter because they help you become the type of person you wish to be. They are the channel through which you develop your deepest beliefs about yourself. Quite literally, you become your habits.”
This amazing quote from the book leads us to the Finisher where he talks about how we create our identity: “The more you repeat a behavior, the more you reinforce the identity associated with that behavior. In fact, the word identity was originally derived from the Latin word essentitas, which means being, and identidem, which means repeatedly. Your identity is literally your “repeated beingness.’”
And, our identity, as James tells us, emerges from our HABITS:
“Whatever your identity is right now, you only believe it because you have proof of it.”
So… Back to you and that challenge you have as a leader?
Who do you need to be to Dominate and Win?
Be the Creator, Show your Kids how things are done!
Let’s do this!
CONTROL = THE CONTROLLABLES
Teaching our young athletes to put their attention only on what they can control is vital to their growth and development.
When they get distracted by things they don’t control, their performance suffers. They have limited energy, attention, and resources—so it’s important they learn to put them where they can actually make a difference.
As leaders of course this means WE NEED to only be putting our energy, attention, and resources into what we can control.
Are you putting your focus and attention into only what you can control?
THE SPACE BETWEEN STIMULUS AND RESPONSE
Think about the eye of a Miami hurricane. No matter how intense the storm or what’s swept up in its gale-force winds, that calm, blue center is always there.
This is the space between stimulus and response. We all have the ability to choose how we respond to everything that life throws at us.
‘Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.’
When we talk about developing Explosive Power at the Playmaker Project we talk about the physical piece, Power = Force x Velocity AND developing the mental piece. That mental power is this,
‘Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.’
Playmakers are leaders. They find ways to make positive things happen no matter the situation. This requires the ability to cultivate that skill between stimulus and response.
Let’s do this!
A FOCUS ON THE FUNDAMENTALS
For athletes, the body is the vehicle for success. What are the fundamentals for younger athletes? The fundamentals are the basics of the human body. Breathing, Hydration, The Ability to Eliminate Distractions, Nutrition, Sleeping, and Training.
For our younger athletes to improve no matter the situation it is up to us as leaders to set the example.
It is up to us as leaders to be disciplined enough to prioritize our own fundamentals. This requires discipline. Discipline is the spark that ignites the fire of habit. Those fires must be lit daily, and discipline provides the original source of energy.
The word discipline literally means to be a disciple to a higher purpose. For most of us, we feel a powerful purpose to lead, inspire, and teach our younger athletes.
“Who are you working for besides yourself?
Who are you reading this for?
Who is depending on you?
Who will benefit if you discipline yourself to eat right, train right, sleep right, and hydrate well?
Developing the discipline to prioritize your fundamentals every day means you become a disciple— not to the fundamentals themselves, but to the higher purpose of developing yourself fully as a human being and as a leader. …
Remember, when extraordinary efforts become commonplace, extraordinary results follow. At the end of the day, leadership development is self-development.
How much time and effort you put into developing yourself over this time period is going to determine the level of growth for your young athletes.
CHALLENGES = CALLS TO GREATNESS
Think of your most memorable experiences as a family? Or your most memorable experience on a team?
Most people when answering this question usually respond with a story about how they responded to some kind of challenge.
Because hardships have a way of making people come face-to-face with who they really are and what they’re capable of becoming.
Challenges test us, and they require inventive ways of dealing with new situations.
If attacked with Ferocity challenges bring out the best in us. When times are stable and secure, complacency happens. This is why so few teams in pro sports win multiple championships in a row. It’s hard to stay motivated to improve when things are comfortable.
Now is an OPPORTUNITY to teach our young champions’ how to show up as the Best version of themselves and Dominate
LEADING YOUNG CHAMPIONS: CHALLENGING BUT GRATIFYING
Leading our teams and families through difficult times is the most challenging and, therefore, the most gratifying responsibility that we will ever have.
So, with that humbling reward in the distance, embrace your responsibility and go forward into this New World with the disciplined resolve to control the controllables, develop your explosive inner power, dial in your fundamentals like never before, and WIN.
Let’s do this!
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With Love and Respect,
M. Ed (Human Potential)
M. I.L (International Leadership and Coaching)